Thursday, April 18, 2013

Let it go!






By: TD Jakes
There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. 

Thursday, March 28, 2013

The Search for Love







 We long to be wanted, we long to be desired, we long for attention. We have this empty hole in our heart that’s screaming to be filled, and we’ll do anything to fill it. We’ll search and search–give ourselves away in one way or another–all to satisfy that emptiness.
One of the major things I see girls my age do to fill this hole is enter into a relationship with a guy. Why? Because they need someone else to confirm who they are. They need someone to say, “You’re beautiful. You’re wanted. You’re captivating. You’re loved. You’re not alone.” Often times, girls fall for fake promises from a guy who says they will always be there, never lose feelings for you, and always love you. Then after the break up, girls are left searching again to find something else to fill their emptiness and wondering what will. They long for their identity to be found in being loved.
It hurts me deeply to see girls I know go through this process. Even though they may believe in God, they haven’t fully opened their hearts to let Him pour His love and identity into them. They don’t think of Him as the one that has been pursuing them, the one who has been incredibly in love with them, the one who has had feelings towards them since day one. He’s been watching, admiring, and getting butterflies at the thought of them loving Him back.
        A relationship with Christ can never be replaced by a relationship with a guy. We can’t rely all of our worth, value, identity, or happiness on a guy who’s feelings may change for us. No boy can live up to the expectation of filling a hole that is meant for only God to fill. That emptiness and cry for love should only be filled with Christ. His feelings for us never change. He has, is, and always will be completely in love with us. Despite what you've done, despite what you do, His feelings of adoration and His choice of love never changes.

Written by: be.loved Intern: Katherine Robins

Thursday, March 14, 2013

Giving our best hours to Him






By Leslie Ludy
Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. Colossians 3:2
God has entrusted us with the precious gift of time. Twenty-four hours in every day; seven days in a week; every day significant, every hour important, every moment of value to God. Yet how many of those moments are truly being used for His glory? If we are honest, many of us would have to admit that though we profess Jesus Christ to be our highest priority, our lives proclaim something quite different.  
A Christian young woman recently confessed to me, “I spend more time on Facebook than I do in prayer or studying the Word of God.”  
That’s the sad reality most of us are living in.
It’s easy to think of our time, especially our free time, as belonging to us; that it’s our right to do whatever we feel like doing in those “down” moments of the day.  But when we come to Christ, we are to lay everything at His feet - including our time.  As Leonard Ravenhill said, “What does it mean to be a Christian?  Your life is hid with Christ. You have no time of your own, no money of your own; Christ must become your complete Master.”
God has continued to challenge me with this statement - down to the very details of how I spend each moment of the day.  And I have discovered that when we lay everything at the feet of Jesus and find our deepest fulfillment, rest, peace, strength, and joy in His presence alone – not dulling our spiritual lives with worldly counterfeits – we are ushered into the supernatural, superhuman existence in which God designed us to live. That’s when the presence of God draws near. That’s when our prayers are heard and answered. That’s when the life we read about in Scripture actually becomes our reality.
Most of us constantly battle with the fact that God is distant, intimacy with Christ is difficult to obtain, and our prayers don’t seem to be heard.  But God says, “And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart” (Jer. 29:13).
Today’s young women aren't finding Him because we aren't searching for Him with all our hearts.  We are too preoccupied with checking our Facebook, watching reality shows, downloading the latest songs on iTunes, and obsessing over Hollywood’s newest production to let our entire beings be poured forth in constant and unreserved devotion in the service of the Lord who died to save us.
Most of us feel that we don’t have enough time for prayer and seeking God.  But we don’t even consider giving up our nightly TV time, our weekend movie fests, or our iTunes fetish in exchange for spending time in His presence.
Whether we spend our best hours socializing on Facebook, texting about trivialities, rushing to the latest Twilight movie, or vegging in front of the newest reality TV show - the majority of our time is being given to things that are not of eternal value; and often, things that are downright dangerous to our souls.  Most of us are far more influenced by pop culture than we are by the Word of God.  We can quote our favorite lines from 100 different chick flicks, but the only Scripture we know is John 3:16. 
It’s no wonder that Christ feels distant.
Only when we are willing to give Him the best hours of our day - rather than whatever is left after we've wasted most of our time on selfish pleasure - will we truly experience vibrant intimacy with our Heavenly King.


Friday, March 8, 2013

Can two walk together without agreeing on the direction?






"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" (Amos 3:3 NKJV)
A successful marriage is based on two things: "finding" the right person, and "becoming" the right person. And the second thing is harder than the first. Just because two people share the same bed and the same name, doesn't guarantee harmony. Here are some practical suggestions based on the word 

E-V-A-L-U-A-T-E:
  1. Enjoy: Do you enjoy the same things? Maybe it's no big deal now, but later when your husband is glued to the ballgame on TV and you want a little conversation, it will be. 
  2. Values: The Bible asks, "Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" Are you able to agree on major issues such as intimacy, child rearing, finances, in-laws, goals and your relationship with God? You may disagree over many things, but these are make-or-break issues. 
  3. Accessibility: Are both of you emotionally accessible, or is he the strong silent type who doesn't communicate - or understand your need to? Love. Do you really love each other? Not the Hollywood version but the kind that listens to your spouse's opinions and concerns, overlooks their faults and failings, values them, and expresses itself through kindness? 
  4. Understanding: As surely as God doesn't make two snowflakes alike, He doesn't make two people alike. So, can you understand and handle each other's differences? 
  5. Appreciation: Your mate can't read your mind, so get into the habit of expressing your appreciation for one another. 
  6. Temperament: If you're naturally upbeat but they're moody and introverted  you may have an oil-and-water mix. How will you handle this? 
  7. Environment: If you're from different backgrounds, are you comfortable in the same social and spiritual settings? 
If you want a happy marriage, E-V-A-L-U-A-T-E these things.

Source: Bob Gass Ministries (Daily Devotional: The word for you today)

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

I kissed dating goodbye!


Ch. 4 Counter Culture Romance - Joshua Harris: I kissed dating goodbye

          Summary by: heartofchristians:

Every relationship is an opportunity to model Christ’s love.
- We must practice God’s love as God defines it – sincere, a servants heart, and selfless – not the world’s brand of selfish and sensual love based on what feels good.

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Is christian online dating a sin?

                                                     

                                                                     

"My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord". 
(Isaiah 55:8)

I often get asked this question ,"is using a christian online dating site a sin". My answer is no. No where in the bible does it say it is; however, a better question is, does it honor God and His plan for my life. Before writing this post I prayed and meditated on God's word because I wanted to stay in line with His principles.

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Don't settle for pretty you deserve more.





"But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." (1 Samuel 16:7)

Do you have a check-list? A list of requirements a person must meet before considering a friendly outing? Are these requirements height, smile, eyes...etc? Are you placing to much value on the outward appearance?
It's perfectly normal to desire a certain type of person but at what cost? These are a few statements I've heard from christian singles: